You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out

I feel like I haven’t been writing in ages, even though it’s only been two months, and honestly, I’ve missed it.

Why I’ve been gone so long is because I’ve been going through a lot. Changes in homes. Changes in jobs. And through it all, I still feel like I’m constantly on the go, trying to figure out my path.

I’ve spent so much of my time jumping from one task to the next, and only today do I finally feel like I have time to sit, breathe, and write. I missed this. I missed writing and sharing my thoughts. I missed being me.

If there’s anything I want to share with you today, it’s this: I truly thought I had it all figured out. I thought I knew exactly where I was going in life. But now, I see that my path keeps changing, and that’s okay.

There’s a lot I want to do. A lot I’m interested in. And choosing just one direction has always felt… limiting. So I’ve decided to explore different directions, to build a path that’s unique to me.

I don’t believe you have to stick to just one thing just because you studied it. For example, if someone has a diploma in childcare but doesn’t enjoy working with large groups, there are ways to work one-on-one instead. The same goes for so many other fields.

I used to feel like I had to stay on the one path I trained for. But I’m learning that it’s okay to change your mind. Even if you decided long ago that you wanted something, and then you didn’t want it after completing it , that’s okay. That was me. I wanted a path in Education Assistance, but I was very young, and it didn’t feel right at that time. But now, I feel like I could explore the path a little bit.

Here’s the thing, though I’m still deciding, because I have a lot of different interests. But I feel that I’m braver than I used to be. And what I’m trying to say is: it doesn’t matter what path you start on, sometimes it’s going to change.

Facing my fears this year has been one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done. But I’m trusting that the steps I’m taking are the right ones, even if they feel uncertain. I’ve had moments of doubt. I’ve had heavy emotional times where I questioned if anyone would ever see me or see my worth.

The truth is, there are people who will.

I’ve just had to keep going. Stay positive. Push forward despite it all.

Even finding a job — any job — just to survive was difficult. I’ve accepted positions that aren’t aligned with my long-term goals just to make it through. And who knows? Maybe soon I’ll feel ready to launch my coaching career. Right now, it’s just a thought, something in my mind, but something that could flourish if I put effort and time into it, or if I believe in it enough.

For now, I’m doing a customer service job and another as a behavioural interventionist. What I want in my life, as of now, is to be connected with you, to help in any way that I can. And maybe that’s why I’ve always struggled to “choose” just one career path, because I’ve always known that what I want most is to connect. To make a difference in my way, and to live my life the way I want.

If there’s anything I’d like you to take away from this, it’s that you’re not alone if you don’t know exactly where you’re headed. You don’t need to have the full picture figured out. Focus on what you love doing, and the next steps will begin to reveal themselves.

And if you don’t know one hundred percent, try things out. You’ll know afterward what you enjoy. It’s never too late to find the direction that feels right for you and its never late to start.